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autumnluv143yahoo person: Hello Autumn, I'm Joe, a 21/m. YOu seem like an intelligent character and I suspect we have similar interests. Care to chat?
:(found you on the profile search, if you care to know)
Me: sure
sorry for the delay, I'm at work (and I had to go research your profile first)
yahoo person: I'm glad you did. This may sound overly analytic, but can I ask you to respond to my profile in general? I'd like to think it does a good job of summing up who I am and what I do.
(and for what it's worth, I'm often accused of being overly analytic. *smiles*)
Me: lol
overly analytic has it's time and place
yahoo person: well I can rarely seem to turn it off... but go ahead
Me: as for your profile, I think you're 21 but are on a damned good start in this lifestyle. The picking people's brains and wanting to learn and talk are all good things
yahoo person: *nods* To be clear, I pick brains selfishly. It's more about the thrills I get out of making people face ideas that they're uncomfortable with but that still turn them on, than it is about a real desire to learn
Me: lol
at least you're honest about that
are you actively participating in the community?
yahoo person: The middle-aged conservative women who secretely have rape fantasies, the evangelical 20-something guys that are secretly bi. I like pulling teeth and making them open up
actively in the community? not at all
Me: so this is more sexual deviance for you than it is about having a sense of who/what you are? Or am I being presumptuous?
yahoo person: Not presumptuous in the least. I wouldn't ever pretend to be in "the community" it would almost seem disrespcetful to people who are
power in one form or another is a big part of my sexuality, but I'm so many other things, and I almost feel like getting into kink "full-time" would make me lose myself
me: how so?
yahoo person: yo uasked me if it's "who/what I am". Power has everything to do with my sexuality and almost nothing to do with the rest of me. Maybe it's artificial, but I feel a real divide there
That wasn't well worded, but I hope you understood
me: I believe so. You find only sexual pleasure in having that power over someone. You have no desire to have that be a full-time part of you.
yahoo person: well power in some ways. I enjoy the responsibilty of being in charge of a project or whatever, but it's not in any way the same thing
me: ok
so where are you from?
yahoo person: the mid-atlantic. I don't like to get more specific unless I know someone well. Sorry, privacy-freak here
me: *nods*
you're a bit hyper, aren't you?
yahoo person: explain.
me: do you sit still for long periods of time? Or do you generally tend to buzz and be on the move? y
yahoo person: I'm not especially hyper, really. But online is where I blow off steam, so you may be getting a skewed picture because of that. When I go to yahoo, more often than not, I'm already stressed
me: why are you stressed?
yahoo person: *shrugs* full time student, internship, and lately, trying to help an ex girlfriend through a really rough patch.
Not really looking to vent though, more to slide into fnatasy-land, idea-land
me: I don't play there very well
yahoo person: What do you do here, exactly?
me: Where?
yahoo person: in little instant message boxes
me: I have an extensive list of friends that I enjoy keeping up with.
yahoo person: If I can ask, tell me more about what submission means to you. For almost anyone into these things, they seem to have radically different understandings of it
me: you'll have to be a little more specific than that. Submission to me means that if I submit to someone, I am bending my will or giving over of my will to them.
yahoo person: I mean that for some it's a very loving thing, it's about giving trust and knowing you'll be "Taken care of". but it can be something far meaner
me: It's non, all, any of those things. I am not someone who just enjoys being submissive to someone. I am a submissive.
yahoo person: *nods, listening*
me: I give my will freely to the one who has earned that from me.
yahoo person: Perhaps the quesiton then is, what is it to earn it?
me: that depends entirely on the person in question
but I would say that a good portion of it is presentation and chemistry
yahoo person: makes it sound like submission is simply a natural progression in romantic relationsihps?
me: well I don't "do" vanilla so quite possibly that is what I expect, yes
but it's nearly impossible to put a description to something you are constantly learning about, discovering new things with/about and that changes on a regular basis depending on newly acquired information/experiences
yahoo person: It's getting clearer to me that we just think about these in VERY diffferent ways, and for understandable reasons. So I'm starting to get a hunch that this may just not work. I tend to break it into "fantasies" and specific ideas, memories of sensations, emotional responses... I'd like to do that to you but I'm not sure how it will go
me: lol, darlin
I don't know you so I wouldn't allow that to happen
You're playing in fantasy and I'm very much a reality kind of person
yahoo person: simply and absolutely, you won't let me get into your head that way?
me: No, I will not.
yahoo person: I respect that, but that's almost entirely what I"m seeking here. So I suppose I'll leave you be
me: Have a good search
yahoo person: and have a good evening. adios
:(found you on the profile search, if you care to know)
Me: sure
sorry for the delay, I'm at work (and I had to go research your profile first)
yahoo person: I'm glad you did. This may sound overly analytic, but can I ask you to respond to my profile in general? I'd like to think it does a good job of summing up who I am and what I do.
(and for what it's worth, I'm often accused of being overly analytic. *smiles*)
Me: lol
overly analytic has it's time and place
yahoo person: well I can rarely seem to turn it off... but go ahead
Me: as for your profile, I think you're 21 but are on a damned good start in this lifestyle. The picking people's brains and wanting to learn and talk are all good things
yahoo person: *nods* To be clear, I pick brains selfishly. It's more about the thrills I get out of making people face ideas that they're uncomfortable with but that still turn them on, than it is about a real desire to learn
Me: lol
at least you're honest about that
are you actively participating in the community?
yahoo person: The middle-aged conservative women who secretely have rape fantasies, the evangelical 20-something guys that are secretly bi. I like pulling teeth and making them open up
actively in the community? not at all
Me: so this is more sexual deviance for you than it is about having a sense of who/what you are? Or am I being presumptuous?
yahoo person: Not presumptuous in the least. I wouldn't ever pretend to be in "the community" it would almost seem disrespcetful to people who are
power in one form or another is a big part of my sexuality, but I'm so many other things, and I almost feel like getting into kink "full-time" would make me lose myself
me: how so?
yahoo person: yo uasked me if it's "who/what I am". Power has everything to do with my sexuality and almost nothing to do with the rest of me. Maybe it's artificial, but I feel a real divide there
That wasn't well worded, but I hope you understood
me: I believe so. You find only sexual pleasure in having that power over someone. You have no desire to have that be a full-time part of you.
yahoo person: well power in some ways. I enjoy the responsibilty of being in charge of a project or whatever, but it's not in any way the same thing
me: ok
so where are you from?
yahoo person: the mid-atlantic. I don't like to get more specific unless I know someone well. Sorry, privacy-freak here
me: *nods*
you're a bit hyper, aren't you?
yahoo person: explain.
me: do you sit still for long periods of time? Or do you generally tend to buzz and be on the move? y
yahoo person: I'm not especially hyper, really. But online is where I blow off steam, so you may be getting a skewed picture because of that. When I go to yahoo, more often than not, I'm already stressed
me: why are you stressed?
yahoo person: *shrugs* full time student, internship, and lately, trying to help an ex girlfriend through a really rough patch.
Not really looking to vent though, more to slide into fnatasy-land, idea-land
me: I don't play there very well
yahoo person: What do you do here, exactly?
me: Where?
yahoo person: in little instant message boxes
me: I have an extensive list of friends that I enjoy keeping up with.
yahoo person: If I can ask, tell me more about what submission means to you. For almost anyone into these things, they seem to have radically different understandings of it
me: you'll have to be a little more specific than that. Submission to me means that if I submit to someone, I am bending my will or giving over of my will to them.
yahoo person: I mean that for some it's a very loving thing, it's about giving trust and knowing you'll be "Taken care of". but it can be something far meaner
me: It's non, all, any of those things. I am not someone who just enjoys being submissive to someone. I am a submissive.
yahoo person: *nods, listening*
me: I give my will freely to the one who has earned that from me.
yahoo person: Perhaps the quesiton then is, what is it to earn it?
me: that depends entirely on the person in question
but I would say that a good portion of it is presentation and chemistry
yahoo person: makes it sound like submission is simply a natural progression in romantic relationsihps?
me: well I don't "do" vanilla so quite possibly that is what I expect, yes
but it's nearly impossible to put a description to something you are constantly learning about, discovering new things with/about and that changes on a regular basis depending on newly acquired information/experiences
yahoo person: It's getting clearer to me that we just think about these in VERY diffferent ways, and for understandable reasons. So I'm starting to get a hunch that this may just not work. I tend to break it into "fantasies" and specific ideas, memories of sensations, emotional responses... I'd like to do that to you but I'm not sure how it will go
me: lol, darlin
I don't know you so I wouldn't allow that to happen
You're playing in fantasy and I'm very much a reality kind of person
yahoo person: simply and absolutely, you won't let me get into your head that way?
me: No, I will not.
yahoo person: I respect that, but that's almost entirely what I"m seeking here. So I suppose I'll leave you be
me: Have a good search
yahoo person: and have a good evening. adios
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Date: 2008-02-20 01:40 am (UTC)*shudder*
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Date: 2008-02-20 04:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-02-20 05:37 pm (UTC)I wish him luck.